Each task is one twenty-to-thirty-minute action — the kind of work that ships before the day ends, not the kind that lingers on your todo list. Open it, do it, react ✓ in the cohort channel when it’s shipped.
WEEK 3 · TASK 1
The 5-Minute Wife Audit
A clean look at how you've actually been showing up.
Most men believe their own press. This week you'll ask AI to play your wife describing the last month from her chair — not to put words in her mouth, but to break the spell of your own PR. Then you'll sit with what you read, and you'll go ask her directly.
Action checklist
- Open Claude. Brief it on your marriage stage and this month's stressors — no specific names or private details.
- Ask: "If my wife described how I'm showing up this month — my presence, my words, my follow-through — what would she likely say?"
- Read the answer twice. Notice the line that stings; that's the signal, not the noise.
- Pray over it. Then ask her in person this week: does the audit match her experience?
DON'T HAND HER THE AI'S ANSWER
This is a mirror for you, not a script for her. The AI guess is a starting point to get you honest — her actual words are the only ones that count. Go get them.
SCRIPTURE
Ephesians 5:25 — "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church." Christ knew His bride intimately. AI is a tool to break your self-deception; knowing her is still your work.
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WEEK 3 · TASK 2
Write Your 5-Year Watchman's Vision
One paragraph each: marriage, fathering, body, money, spirit.
A watchman who can't say where the city is headed won't notice when it drifts. Use AI to draft a five-year vision across the five domains of your life, then cut it down to what you'll actually decide — not what you wish. AI drafts; you sign; you re-read it every Monday for five years.
Action checklist
- Ask Claude to draft one paragraph for each domain:
- Marriage — what does it look like five years from now?
- Fathering — what would your kids say about you?
- Body — what physical state are you stewarding toward?
- Money — what's your financial position and what's it for?
- Spirit — where is your walk with God?
- Read each paragraph aloud. Cut every line that's a wish but not a decision.
- Rewrite the survivors in your own words until it sounds like you, not the machine.
- Print it. Read it the first Monday of every month.
WHY THIS MATTERS
A man without a written vision is steered by the most recent email and the loudest crisis. Write it down so the urgent can't keep beating the important.
SCRIPTURE
Proverbs 29:18 — "Where there is no vision, the people perish." The people in your house included — and so does the watchman himself.
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WEEK 3 · TASK 3
Prep One Hard Conversation
AI prepares the watchman. The watchman shows up.
There's a conversation you've been avoiding — with your wife, a kid, a partner, an elder. This is the rep. AI is the prep room where you find the kindest true words and anticipate the response. It is not the pulpit. You'll have the conversation by Friday, with no screen in the room.
Action checklist
- Use Claude to prepare: clarify what you actually want to say, anticipate their response, find words that are both kind and true.
- Then have the conversation — without AI in the room.
- The prep is for your nerve and your clarity, not for a script.
- If you catch yourself reading off your phone, you've missed the point.
- Have it by Friday. Report in the channel that it shipped — not the contents, just that you showed up.
- Afterward, log two sentences: what landed, what you'd do differently.
SHOW UP SOBER AND PRESENT
They don't need a polished speech. They need you — clear, unhurried, and not hiding behind a screen. The prep is so you can be fully there, not partly performing.
SCRIPTURE
Ephesians 4:15 — "Speaking the truth in love." AI can help you find the words; only the Spirit gives the courage to say them face to face.
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